SEX!!!

I recently read about a girl who blogged about something related to this topic and truly speaking I was envious of her. I blog too.. Then what makes her blog more superior than mine?? Is it the topic she chooses to blog about or is it just her writing skills or is it something to do with her contacts with the right people??

So i chose to experiment..

Sex !! hmmm.. Why are we as a group shy to talk about it?? Is it to maintain the social decorum of the society or is it simply to avoid any uneasy questions that could be asked by us to our elders?

I have interacted with many kinds of people of my age group with such diverse views on this three letters of mystery and adventure. From the on screen kisses that embarrases few people to the new rage of the youth.. PDA.. Yup thats wat they call it.. Public Display of Affection. We have spoken about everything that is worth a discussion.. As Frued would have put it.. Every thing a human does is to attract or arouse the sexual desires of his opposite sex..

Most of my friends have no problem talking about it even with parents. Its not about what we talk, its about how we talk.. Is it possible to have a healthy conversation about this topic with your colleagues. I guess we can. We can share views and be open to new ideas. Sex as such is not bad unless one is not sure about what they really want. Topics like a live in relation and one night stands are often discussed among the youth. Frankly speaking it helps you to see what you want and what your personal views are about sex.

Personally I would like to hide my confusion about sex in the garb of orthodox outlook of my family. Most of us actually do that and get away with it. We are not confident enough to say no because we wish to say no, or as a matter of fact say yes if we feel like. What people like me have to understand is that what ever your answer is to this question, its correct as long as you own up and face the consequences.

I live in the world of fantasy of the novels. For me my perfect guy will sweep me off my feet and marry me and then we'll share the magical moment. It hardly sounds like a bold gals decision who chooses to discuss about sex on her blog. Yet it is what it is. This post goes out to all the gals who are scared to say no because they'll loose their boyfriends or infact to couples who get involved just to be accepted by their peers. The fruit is always sweet when it is given time to mature properly. The decision about when exactly a person is ready is a personal choice but no one, absolutely no one has a right to tell you that your decision is incorrect.

PS.. This blog is totally a personal view...

PAIN

Can pain be defined or described?

Any human with emotions can reply to this seemingly innocent question.. Pain is one thing which cannot be described in just one word, sentence or a dictionary meaning. Pain is when music starts hurting your soul. It is the silence of the one you love but can't understand. It's in the silent tears shed in the name of lost love. Each heart beat sends a seering pain through your body and you still have to smile your way through it.

It is the loss of expression, loss of the meaning of your life and it is loosing your sense of emotion. Pain is being told that you are not worth being loved. It is being unconditionally loved yet not being able to respond to that love. Pain is waiting for words which will never be spoken. Pain is emotions which will never be understood.Pain is loosing your best friend in the midst of your life when you needed him the most. Pain is not being able to explain or respond to your feelings. Pain is the burden of relations which you never desired. Pain is not understanding yourself. Pain is like a closed room with no light, no hope, no reality and no truth.

Pain is......... just is.......... Being Alive..........

My Way

" How can you truly love others when you don't truly love yourself."

Love Vs Understanding!!!

And the prince and princess lived happily ever after.......

This is how most of our lovely fairy tales end. One seems to ponder that is it really possible that two people meet and fall in love in the first sight.. Well who knows ya, it might just happen. The thought I wanna put forward is that is love enough for them to survive for ever after?

Sequels of movies like Shrek show a somewhat realistic picture. Its not love that keeps the happy ending but the understanding among them. Love is more of an attachment, both physical and emotional, understanding on the other hand is looking through the eyes of the other person. When one person truly understands the needs, thoughts, fears, aspirations and mischiefs of the other, that is true understanding and that is when the happy endings begin.

Although like its not necessary that the person who you love lives with you for the whole life, it is also not necessary that the person who understands you will love you as a life partner. With the changing scenario and broadning horizons the concept of having a close knit friend circle of both guys and gals who truly understand each other and are comfortable talking about every issue is becoming more acceptable to the world.

The trend although new is quite appealing to the youth. If you come to think of it the concept is been in front of us since so many years. Why else would the series "Friends" be so popular in our culture. The only thing is that the youth now unabashedly declares that they do want to be free and equal in every sense.

Every story has a sting in the tail!!

What are the chances of your opposite sex buddy to remain just friends?? And the biggest fear is can your life partner accept such a friendship??

Well it is a limit decided by every individual and his or her family background. Food for thought in this post is what if you have to choose between a friend and your love, then what would be your choice??

Love is passion, Friendship is understanding..

Love can never end with friendship, it becomes too awkward to go a step behind. Yet friendship can be beautifully and sensually be turned into love, its just a mutual step ahead.

I would end this post on a very personal note.

Love showed me fun, adventure, passion but ended by giving me pain .....
Friendship showed me trust, faith, understanding and has a promise of never coming to an end.

So for me.. in a fight of Love Vs Understanding

Understanding wins... My friendship wins...

Thanks for making me understand this baba...
tc......

Whose fault is it anyways!!!

Hey all my readers!! suprisingly there are only two of them I guess.. Anyways I'm writing this out because I spent the most confusing day of my life!!!

Who is at fault if two people just can't stay with each other and can't seem to stay apart too!!
And I'm NOT talking about love.. It's just friendship.. But such a screwed up friendship that I cry every time I think about it...

Every word spoken among them stings the other. Things are always misunderstood.. Ego is given more importance than anything else.. Both know that they care for the others friendship but refuse to acknowledge it. Fights are more common than words of friendship or encouragement or appreciation. All the time is spent in BLAMING!!

Its not like its any of my concern but it hurts to see both of them like this.. If one takes one step towards the other of understanding the other does something or the other to make the step useless.. Not only that it sends away that friend two steps back..

This might be the most confusing and probably the worst post I've ever written.. But those whom I want to understand will get it I guess....
thanks baba for being there!!!

tc..........

Bani* 2.... The Saga Continues...

Just when I thought I knew all about this girl she continues to surprise me. It was my brother's marriage and this wonder gal was my life saviour. She keeps all her sadness to herself and enjoys because I'm happy. Dances, sings and joins the fun and frolic and before long she is taken in as a part of the family. I can trust her with anything and share all with her. She taught me so much in life that it would be an insult to our relation if I just call her my friend...

We do disagree with loads of things and fight a lot yet that understanding between us is beyond any words. I go to her place and feel as if I'm at my second house and so does she. The informality among us surprises many, even our family members.

Hey Bani* I know U'll read this post so don't you dare to leave my side atleast for the next two years.. k.. coz you know I'm one crazy gal and can do anything.. hehehehehehe..

Anyways I'll just end this post by saying that...

Bani* is a sibling that God forgot to give me......



take care.

DeAtH

What does your mind imagine when you see the topic..

Death!!

The interesting aspect of blogging is that I search for pictures to suit my particular post. When I typed " death" as the key word it was amazingly shocking in what ways death can be perceived.

It can be seen as heart break, a betrayal, a personal loss, guns can portray death so can an innocent looking flower...

We are too lost in our lives to think about matters as serious as these but I have loads of free faltu time and I tend to think about it. For me death is having a purposeless life.. A life without any direction or movement is death. If we don't have a drive or passion that is death. But I also perceive death as something very sacred. A silent sleep that takes you to a place of bliss. A song without lyrics and a soul without worldly lusts..

Thats DeAtH..

And its Beautiful.........