My Way

" How can you truly love others when you don't truly love yourself."

Love Vs Understanding!!!

And the prince and princess lived happily ever after.......

This is how most of our lovely fairy tales end. One seems to ponder that is it really possible that two people meet and fall in love in the first sight.. Well who knows ya, it might just happen. The thought I wanna put forward is that is love enough for them to survive for ever after?

Sequels of movies like Shrek show a somewhat realistic picture. Its not love that keeps the happy ending but the understanding among them. Love is more of an attachment, both physical and emotional, understanding on the other hand is looking through the eyes of the other person. When one person truly understands the needs, thoughts, fears, aspirations and mischiefs of the other, that is true understanding and that is when the happy endings begin.

Although like its not necessary that the person who you love lives with you for the whole life, it is also not necessary that the person who understands you will love you as a life partner. With the changing scenario and broadning horizons the concept of having a close knit friend circle of both guys and gals who truly understand each other and are comfortable talking about every issue is becoming more acceptable to the world.

The trend although new is quite appealing to the youth. If you come to think of it the concept is been in front of us since so many years. Why else would the series "Friends" be so popular in our culture. The only thing is that the youth now unabashedly declares that they do want to be free and equal in every sense.

Every story has a sting in the tail!!

What are the chances of your opposite sex buddy to remain just friends?? And the biggest fear is can your life partner accept such a friendship??

Well it is a limit decided by every individual and his or her family background. Food for thought in this post is what if you have to choose between a friend and your love, then what would be your choice??

Love is passion, Friendship is understanding..

Love can never end with friendship, it becomes too awkward to go a step behind. Yet friendship can be beautifully and sensually be turned into love, its just a mutual step ahead.

I would end this post on a very personal note.

Love showed me fun, adventure, passion but ended by giving me pain .....
Friendship showed me trust, faith, understanding and has a promise of never coming to an end.

So for me.. in a fight of Love Vs Understanding

Understanding wins... My friendship wins...

Thanks for making me understand this baba...
tc......

Whose fault is it anyways!!!

Hey all my readers!! suprisingly there are only two of them I guess.. Anyways I'm writing this out because I spent the most confusing day of my life!!!

Who is at fault if two people just can't stay with each other and can't seem to stay apart too!!
And I'm NOT talking about love.. It's just friendship.. But such a screwed up friendship that I cry every time I think about it...

Every word spoken among them stings the other. Things are always misunderstood.. Ego is given more importance than anything else.. Both know that they care for the others friendship but refuse to acknowledge it. Fights are more common than words of friendship or encouragement or appreciation. All the time is spent in BLAMING!!

Its not like its any of my concern but it hurts to see both of them like this.. If one takes one step towards the other of understanding the other does something or the other to make the step useless.. Not only that it sends away that friend two steps back..

This might be the most confusing and probably the worst post I've ever written.. But those whom I want to understand will get it I guess....
thanks baba for being there!!!

tc..........

Bani* 2.... The Saga Continues...

Just when I thought I knew all about this girl she continues to surprise me. It was my brother's marriage and this wonder gal was my life saviour. She keeps all her sadness to herself and enjoys because I'm happy. Dances, sings and joins the fun and frolic and before long she is taken in as a part of the family. I can trust her with anything and share all with her. She taught me so much in life that it would be an insult to our relation if I just call her my friend...

We do disagree with loads of things and fight a lot yet that understanding between us is beyond any words. I go to her place and feel as if I'm at my second house and so does she. The informality among us surprises many, even our family members.

Hey Bani* I know U'll read this post so don't you dare to leave my side atleast for the next two years.. k.. coz you know I'm one crazy gal and can do anything.. hehehehehehe..

Anyways I'll just end this post by saying that...

Bani* is a sibling that God forgot to give me......



take care.

DeAtH

What does your mind imagine when you see the topic..

Death!!

The interesting aspect of blogging is that I search for pictures to suit my particular post. When I typed " death" as the key word it was amazingly shocking in what ways death can be perceived.

It can be seen as heart break, a betrayal, a personal loss, guns can portray death so can an innocent looking flower...

We are too lost in our lives to think about matters as serious as these but I have loads of free faltu time and I tend to think about it. For me death is having a purposeless life.. A life without any direction or movement is death. If we don't have a drive or passion that is death. But I also perceive death as something very sacred. A silent sleep that takes you to a place of bliss. A song without lyrics and a soul without worldly lusts..

Thats DeAtH..

And its Beautiful.........

SACRIFICE....

I was naive when I first met you,

Unaware of what you wanted of me,

You showed a caring nature and I liked it,

It seemed like you were truly concerned.

I sacrificed my inhibitions,

to trust in your care.

I sacrificed my innocence,

to truly understand you.

It was my time I sacrificed,

to spent precious moments with you.

I sacrificed my cash,

to talk to you for hours.

The long nights I sacrificed,

to keep you company.

To have a day to only us,

I sacrificed my parents trust.

I sacrificed my being,

to love you.

And then.......

I sacrificed my love,

to your new infactuation........

BLASPHEMY!!!!!!

How strongly do you believe in religion and its norms and traditions????

It's a question which many people ask themselves but rarely ponder about.. Sikhs have forever been classified as the hyperactive community which to an extent is true, but the real point is.......
Is it incorrect to be a fanatic for your religion??

My blood boiled when I saw the pictures of a person dressed as my religion's Tenth Guru and as if that was not enough he actually baptized his "followers" in that attire. I'm too lost in the religious implications to be bothered about the political agenda hidden behind. I don't care if Congress lost or the BJP won or whatever is the consequence of a stupid election.

What scares me more is not that a person dared to do such an act but that many Sikhs refuse to act on it under the veil that if they do so then their so called "militant" image will be stamped in the media. They say commerce and business is being affected in Punjab due to the protest. What I ask is that should we be a weakling and accept whats given to us on a platter so that business flourishes?? Figures and numbers and currency will rule our lives while the world can mock our traditions and values but we refuse to act??

We have been taught the lessons of patience and harmony but if injustice is thrust on to us while our silent protests go unheard we will not be afraid to pick up the sword too..

It might seem a very small issue to those who have no clue of what Sikhism is about. For most of those people we are just people who dress funny, refuse to shave or cut out hair and are excellent subject matter for jokes. Yet the reality is far more solemn than these petty issues.

" We are different because we dare to be different"

Let me use this blog to share the myth of " Sardar ke 12 baj gaye". Yes we have heard it often in jokes or being portrayed in movies as a satirical joke but the true story is not a laughing matter..
Aurangzeb was on a spree of conversion and he used harshest of the means to do so. His soldiers kidnapped young village girls and it was then that the village folks approached Sikhs to save the honour of their daughters. These Khalsa's carried out their rescue operation after midnight to have the advantage of night time. They were charged with fuming energy unlike anyone had ever witnessed and it was beyond words. Thus the phrase of " barah bajna" was coined to symbolize the grit and guts of those Khalsa's at that particular hour.

Its a sorry state that today most people accept it as something funny........

Most of us are unaware of reality and seem to think that the headlines shown are so messy just because politics and religion have gone to bed together. Think once again,
We are not fighting for a political gamete, we are fighting for our religious dignity!!
Respect that!!!!!!

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Twenty!!!!!!!!

Hey people I celebrated my birthday on this 16th and with this birthday I bid a farewell to my teenage..
I've had a roller coaster ride all these years and experimented almost all things I possibly could. Its not like my life ends here but its a new beginning for me.. A turning point from where I can now not return so I leave my regrets and past faults behind and start afresh..

My birthday was a blast and all my friends wished me.. SAM* as usual your wishes were the closest I hold and also Bani* who was with me all through the day.. Munna, Baba and gang wished me a day earlier but that too was pretty cute of them..
Guess what Baba took the pains of wishing me again the next day that is on my actual birthday.. U the sweetest ya:)

Thanks to all my friends for making my " teenage farewell birthday" so special..
Veer and Bhabs you were the first ones to wish me and also Charu di..
Ma, Pa love u loads for smiling all day for me no matter wat..

bbye n tc..........

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

This is a truly amazing story, I hope the readers like it.

Once upon a time there was a young child who lived with his Dad and truly loved him with all his heart.. He enjoyed his company and the only thing that disappointed him was that his Dad spent a lot of time working to improve the quality of their lives.. So one Christmas party they went out at the Company's Boss' house and this child innocently asked the Santa in the party that his wish should come true.. Now it was a very simple wish that his Dad should spend time with him for his birthday and as usually in these parties the Santa forwarded the wish to the Company CEO.. As his Dad was an enthusiastic worker the CEO considered the request and fixed up the meeting with the soon to be Super Dad the next day..

Dad was thoroughly surprised when he heard the proposal of the CEO.. He was been given a payed holiday for four months till his Son's Birthday and all he had to do in this time was to plan a great birthday party for his son.. Dad jumped for joy and rushed to tell his son who was equally elated..

The very next day the preparation started in full swing although it was too early as the son's b'day was four months away but Dad could not wait.. He took out all his resources and started making all kinds of lists to do.. Son was truly excited for few weeks, then the excitement wore off as all they now talked off was his Birthday... How many friends are to be called, the theme of the party, what dress they would wear, even the exact dimensions of the cake were discussed in deep detail.... as it was the only thing that the Dad had to spend his now almost free time.. It was like a distant goal that had to be attained after crossing a vacuum of nothing..

Their was another problem, although the Dad was payed the salary in his vacations too but now he wanted an almost lavish party and with nothing else at hand he started to notice the little luxuries as a waste of precious money and so the accounting and budgeting started.. All this disappointed the Son who by now wished he did not have a birthday to celebrate.. But it was his wish and so life went on.. The guest were sent invitations, duties were assigned and if the Dad had his way he would have made them do a rehearsal of the show too..

What the Dad so conveniently forgot was the simple joy people get from imperfection.. The joy of seeing people react to unexpected situations, but the Dad would have nothing of that.. Na not at his Son's oh so special Birthday, so he went over all details and he made others go over all the details and he forgot to enjoy and let enjoy on the way..

Finally the D Day arrived and instead of being Happy the mood was set differently.. Dad was hyper and jumped at every mistake that tarnished his picture perfect party, infact he was so consumed with it, that for the first time he forgot to wish his son HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

The Son's emotions were in a turmoil, what he expected to be a joyous moment turned out to be his worst nightmare.. The guest were also kinda stiff not knowing how the should react lest they do something incorrect to spoil the " so called fun" they were supposed to be having....

As the time for cutting the cake came the Son almost knew what he wanted to wish while blowing off those candles..

He closed his eyes and wished with all his might " God let me not celebrate my Birthday ever again"

As it so ironically happens, the Son's wish was granted....

He did not see the next day's sunrise.............................

BBye and tc...........

Tour De Bikaner

This is probably the most expected post of all.. But i'll keep it short and sweet..

I went to Bikaner for some conference and few significant things happened.. I realized how rough outside life can be when you facing it all alone. My family and friends supported me all the way through.. Last but not the least at all...... I was truly and thoroughly flattered to see how many people actually cared and missed me while I was away..

I would also like to thank Reet and Madhu for pampering me all through the journey..:)

bbye and take care.............

OUTspoken!!!!!!

Its been so long since I came to Hyderabad and I had to write a post on the wonderful language mixture that is spoken out here. For all the Telgu speaking readers please take no offense in what you are about to read below... these are small anecdotes which I shared with the people I spend time with...

The first day my sister steps into the college for admission the peon welcomes them with a smile and says to them " randi kurchandi", the shock on my parents face is too obvious and the peon fails to understand the reason for the distraught reaction. Actually what he innocently meant was for them to sit down but poor my parents, ignorant of the language used here thought the peon used " randi" as in punjabi which actually means a whore.. Imagine their sense of relief when they found out what the peon meant and this joke still somehow manages to make us tickle with laughter.

The other thing in this place is the way they use Hindi here... Gosh it is sooooo gooooood that anyone with proper knowledge of Hindi will either get bugged or laugh his ass off depending on his temprament. " Main tere ko pakad ke maregi" to " kya kar re le mamu tum loga"..... At first instant it mesmerizes me to see that how easily they can scramble up such a unique language and bring it up in this way.... Then slowly I too get pretty used to it and the words "re" and "da" just seem to start mingling with my sentences until i'm brought back to my original Hindi dictionary after an ocassional talk with my friend at Delhi where proper language is not such an uncommon phenomenon atleast till now!!!!!!!

Anyways I sometimes truly enjoy the way one word can mean such different things in two languages and how these things can spice up your boring life........

I'm loving it and invite all others to experience the same feeling....
till then tc and god bless

Journey to marriage

The Band Wala's to the Mehendi artists to the sumptuous food menu discussions, till the knot is tied the atmosphere in the whole house is so charged that you cannot help but get swept off in its torrent. Specially when the person getting married is very close to you.. Its not about how much you spend on the marriage, its just how much effort and resources you put in to make the best out of what you can..

The marriage I'm talking off is still three months away but almost every holiday turns out to be a shopping experience for us.. To the jokes and anecdotes and yes the teasing of the Bridegroom.. It's like all the family members had saved all of their energies for that one special day.. The formalities seem fun and the occasional problems more challenging, the discussion on what exactly every member should wear on that special day makes one feel like we had neva been to any other party and gotta impress all in this particular function only.. lol..

Jokes apart this journey also allows you to interact with the new addition to your family and to try and accept that person and also mould them according to your family values. Its literally marriage of two families rather than two individuals..

I'm yet to experience the actual sensation of the marriage where all our preparations will be tested but as of now I'm thoroughly enjoying the journey to that celebrated destination called marriage..

till then tc and god bless...........

The Way You Make Others Feel!!!!!!!!!!

Life is so amazing when You hearing awesome music and something great has happened in your life!!
I guess all of us are inspired to live a better and more fulfilling life because someone somewhere cares that this day you have smiled!! It is even better and fulfilling to know that you can and sometimes are a reason why some person decided to smile and give his or her life another shot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I usually have been cribbing on this blog that my life has dished out only harsh stuff to me but that I realized is so untrue!! I've got amazing friends and even though I fight with them and sometimes they don't seem to get what I want but they are still fantabulous and these things somehow only brings me closer to them!!
Having an amazing family,comfortable life, whole bunch of opportunities open to me, stupidly cute and amazing friends, this all being too long with you seems to make me ungrateful......

I get up in the morning and the wonderful Hi Fi my Dad gives, my Mom's warm cuddly hug and the cheerful smiles of my siblings-they the smallest things ever but they get me through my day no matter what!! and if I can't then I always have Bani* by my side or Saanjh* to make me laugh or Baron* to just listen without any judgements at all!!!!!!!!!! Even when we have fought they smile when they see me!! Its wonderful to have good friends but its even amazing to BE an amazing friend!!!!!

So all those people out there who feel they don't have friends to witness their life.. for once go out there and first be a friend you would like to be friends with!! Maybe you'll get hurt on the way but don't give up easily coz in the end its worth it!!!!!!!!!!

This post goes out to all those wonderful people who make me feel special everyday!!!!!!!! Thanks a tonne!! U've made my world a better place to live in!!!!!!!!



P.S. The astericked names have been changed for privacy of the people concerned..

Just For Gags

The most amazing thing about my college is that most of the people I know in it suffer from a severe amnesia problem!! U might think it's very bad but actually it is a blessing in disguise.. It's a blissful way to enjoy life and tends to leave you happier than U eva wanna be!!

Most of the time early mornings is the best time to see the students.. It's like they have had the most amazing sleep and are so darn cheerful!! Full ear to ear flashy smiles which would bedazzle most of the toothpaste commercial makers!!

Anyways the moods lite and people enjoy.. then till lunch they get exhausted from the wonderful neverland they had been residing in and moods start to change!! nevertheless they still try to keep themselves together.. Till the end of the day they seem exhausted and a typical " Revital " advertisement maker would love them to act for him at that particular time!!

Jokes apart I truly think colleges are a great learning experience!! And my college is like heaven in the field of " Real Life Education" !!!! So anyone interested in finding out how U can maintain a smile no matter what and how to suffer from selective amnesia to improve the quality of your life do give my college a visit.. I bet U'll not regret the visit and truly I would love to show you around !!!!!!!!!

Till then take care!!!!!

Exam Jitters

Every student has them in their life and I'm no different.
But this time it was another fear that had clasped me in its clutches, the fear of failing yet again. Its not that I won't write the exam or something but somehow I've known that I'm not a graceful looser. I crib and keep munching the same issue till I can't do anything more about it.
Anyways just had to write it down....

Hoping to do my best..
till then take care...........................

Prejudiced

I've been getting alot of comments lately about the way I created this blog and " what made me do this" to qoute it exactly!!

Frankly I would like to put it on a harsh platter to all my readers(very few r there actually), Don't be prejudiced in your judgement about who and what I am just becoz you happened to read this blog. I mean yes I am what I write but I gotta tell you that I write wen i'm emotionally charged about something. It hardly means that I am a weakling who cannot stand up wen it is required. Also i'm not trying to be philosophical for anyone else's benefit( This was tol by a very close person and I needed to explain abt it). I just write what I feel or felt at that particular moment and although I do encourage any kind of comments I would urge You not to JUDGE me.

Through this post I would also like to thank all my friends who gave their honest and true opinions about this blog. Special thanks to my close pal, your words meant a lot to me( hope u get it that i'm talkin of u)!!!!!!!

HoW ScreWeD uP yOu caN GEt??

Out of matter to write and feeling too bored to explore relations or emotions or dig out dirt from my past I tend to surf new sites or visit other blogs( which is pretty new for I recently found out abt this blogging thing)

Well contrary to the common belief that people are the same at the core I believe that they are way too different for our comprehension!!
Why else would the world be so interesting a place?? Some take a friendship and say its love, is it so?? Are we capable of loving a person more than oneself!! Oh puhlease for all those who'll raise an eyebrow and say you can be so selfless, GROW UP!!

Hypocrisy and innocence have a very fine line between them....
children cross it every time but we tend to ignore it. I've seen this trait pretty often specially in my Venusian counterparts and somehow I too have mastered the art!!

When someone innocently takes infatuation for love, I'd say that the person is lying!! We all know it in the bottom of our hearts that its not for real but we let it go on, ignore all the signs until we screw up wat we had and then later innocently cry over it!!

This is life and this it wat the so called relationship management Gurus will fail to tell you!!

Yes the person closest to your heart needs his space and time and so do you. He does not have to share every detail of his life with you BUT the question is WHY would he not want to????
I have very very less personal experience in the matter of loving a guy but that on the contrary gives me the chance to have a bird's eye view of other's relations!!

I'm no expert and frankly people who do tell you that they are experts, they are simply big time hypocrates!!
No one can actually help you to NOT to screw up your life bcoz eventually you will!!
You will FALL( n mark me here) in love because there are only lucky few who rise in it!!
You will take a girl or guy to be innocently in love with you and probably screw up your life with expectations and disappointments!! You'll cry in the bed all alone wishing to change the past!! Yet trust me all this is worth it !!!!
FINALLY
" Its not how much you screw up,
its how gracefully you screw up that matters at last"

ps: Failed to search a perfect picture for the emotion described..
got any ideas so do post in comment.. tc

Bani!!!!!

Some secrets cannot be revealed even to the closest of your friends and many of them are the secrets of the heart. Being new to the co-education system I was shy to be friends with the students around. I loved it when these people spoke about each other's lives being at ease with the opposite sex but I clearly felt like the ugly duckling among the swans.Part of it was becoz of my braces and part of it was my awkwardness between guys.

Having been declared as a nerd due to my past academic result, I was further left in my own world. I made friends with the two most popular girls and I really liked them. They not only enjoyed life but had a peculiar self confidence about their personality. While I was happy reading books ( let me specify here that i read novels not course books) these people enjoyed their teenage life. Movies, outings and ofcourse the infactuations, I was a far spectator to all of these. Its not that I did not have my share of crushes but they were just momentory and soon passed by.

Life moved on but soon it demanded changes and I thought I was ready for those changes. The visit to the lake close to our college that day changed how I would spend my college life. It was drizzling and this amazing gal Bani* sat next to me and heard me with so much of patience. I can still recall her words
" Give it (life) another chance, open up, its not that bad after all"
My college life began in the true sense that day!!

I've had many arguments with Bani* after that and its funny but we start laughing even when we are fighting!! I dedicate this post to her..... No major reason for it but just to let people know that your friendship matters a lot to me!! Take care!!!!!!!

Out in the new world!!

Your life seems to be running smooth and all's well in it!! You have the most amazing life and a group of frds which can be the envy of any teenager and that is the time wen the whirlpool emerges!!
The suction is very strong and its useless to oppose its flow. I too get dragged into it and wen I finally dare to look up I see a whole new world emerge out of nowhere, with only my family as the familiar faces. This new world is inviting and explorative and i dive into this new experience with the highest expectations.
New school and new set of friends or should I say classmates, for making friends became a tricky task. Very soon the charm and embellishments loose their glamour and all you can see is the hard cored ugly truth. Friends are there but why exactly you can neva be too sure of that, its like the new world had a very different set of dictionary from mine. It confused me and to avoid that confusion I buried myself into books and my family became my new set of amazing friends.
Where do you search for happiness when you are assured by your own peers that you are worth none??
This is where I changed my perspective!!!!
The World accepts you as you want them to, not the way they want. The reins of this life is in your hands and unless you foolishly hand over these reins to others no one can direct your happiness.The sooner we accept this fact the more fulfilling life would become!! I don't say easier bcoz life neva is easy!!
I'll end this article with these words
" Nothing looks good under the microcope.
When you feel a thing is ugly, its just you have come too close to truly appreciate its worth"

The Inspiration

Since two years my life has changed dramatically!! No pathos intended but when i viewed the blog of my friend shubham it inspired me to share things that I so value in my life.

The major question is why would any one be interested in such a Blog? But the fact of the matter is sometimes writing what you felt is the best way to express. Many do write a personal diary and i'm one of that many, yet somewhere somehow we keep our experiences so hidden that they fail to enrich anyone's life, even your own!!

I'm not a poet or a great writer but I'm a person who feels a lot and I'm here to share about living a life at an age where traditions and modern culture juxtapose every persons life!!

This is an exploration of what I feel and why I feel so!! Hope you enjoy jumping into this Whirlpool called LIFE!!